Who ARE these people?!?!? February 25, 2008
Listen to this:
….we are as wives commanded by God to obey our husbands. If you are struggling with either having or not having more and your husband is on a different page, then you need to pray and duck– pray, duck, and ask God to hit your husband! Then when he makes a decision in either direction, all you have to do is follow.I am expecting our 8th, and have had a miscarriage, which means we have dealt with this issue nine times. I am blessed to have a husband who takes his role as my shepherd and protector very seriously. We both desire to be faithful to God and we both do no believe that it is our right to put our hands on our hips and tell the God of the universe what we are going to do, in any area of our lives. So there is balance: we don’t tell God how many and my husband prayerfully considers every month. There have been seasons when I thought I was ready for another baby and he said, “Not now”. That was hard for me, but all I had to do was obey. Now I am in a season of having two babies back-to-back, which neither I nor my husband “planned”. We make plans, God laughs, no?
Holy shit - there are really people in the world who think and live this way. I am flabbergasted. And wait, there’s more:
The more I let the decisions about our family (size, location, use of resources) rest on dh’s shoulders, the more peace and freedom from anxiety I feel. He is happy to listen to my input, advice, council, etc. on these things and I trust that he takes my heart into account, but the responsibility for the final decisions rest with him and he is accountable before God.
Argh….oh, this makes me all queasy. Don’t these women have any brains of their own? Seriously:
We are our dh’s *helpers*–and if we don’t do our part in helping them w/ facts and feelings, we aren’t obeying in a scriptural manner. Our dh’s need all the info they can get to make a good decision. withold nothing from him. he has an awesome responsibility –help him completely.
Let me tell you something: I love my husband to pieces, but there is NO WAY IN HELL I would EVER call myself his “helper”, or give him the ability to make all the decisions for our family. That’s simply irresponsible. For instance, he’s terrible with money management. I’m good at it. But since he’s the “head of the household”, I’m supposed to give this to him and just let the Lord help him out when he screws up? Uh, no thank you. I can’t believe that there are people who really believe this is a responsible, fulfilling way to live.
