Archive for April, 2008

Pros and cons of working from home.

April 29, 2008

Pros!

You get to snuggle in your Nana’s afghan that she made for you when you were 12 from your favorite colors at the time: yellow, purple, and oh yes! More purple.

You get to drink a LOT OF COFFEE.

You can go to the bathroom whenever you want (see above).

You can watch your complete DVD set of “Sex and the City” while you are typing very serious things about technology and Web 2.0.

Cons!

All those candy bars? That are in the cupboard? Uh huh.

You talk to your cats. A lot. Hello, kitties!

You kind of entertain the thought of napping way too much. Because, you know, YOU TOTALLY CAN.

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This kind of stuff ticks me off.

April 25, 2008

A woman on one of the message boards I frequent was unexpectedly served divorce papers by her husband. Here’s the advice she was given:

God WILL listen, comfort, and protect you. You will find peace in His word. Be careful whom you talk to, as far as family and friends go. Sometimes, even though they are well meaning, they may not be giving you the road that God is. I know that this is hard for you. I came home to all of my husbands stuff gone, with no warning. I was heart broken. But, the first thing that i did was fall on my knees and pray to God. I found so much peace and comfort throughout those months.

My heart goes out to you and your children. And another thing, pray for your husband as well. It may not feel good the first, to even second time, but he is being deceived by Satan. He needs God too. Dont give up on your marriage, God can heal anything.

As I get older, I’m trying to get more honest with myself, and one of the things I’ve been trying to process is my evangelical upbringing. Basically, I’ve come to the conclusion that people who talk like this woman? These people? They believe in a God that does not exist in the Christian Bible. That God kills entire populations, allows fathers to rape their daughters for the sake of genealogy, and basically is a very bloody, vengeful, capricious being. I know this because I’ve read and studied the Bible for years. It’s all there, in black, white, and red.

However, I knew I must be missing something. How was it that all these lovely, gracious, well-adjusted people around me could have a “relationship” with someone or something like this? Where in the Bible was the proof that this God even wanted a relationship with us? Sure, he sacrificed his son, but honestly? That always was off-putting to me. Why did I need my sins atoned for? What cosmic law did that satisfy, other than the one that God Himself put into play? If he created that law, couldn’t he just revoke it or rethink it or something?

Anyway, I came to the point in recent years where I suddenly realized that there was nothing wrong with me, spiritually wise. That these people who go on and on about their personal relationship with Jesus (and I used to be one of them) are delusional, yes, but it’s (mostly) a healthy delusional and doesn’t hurt anyone. Bottom line: the decades that I’ve spent trying to chase after this nebulous God relationship – a purely evangelical phenomenon – would have been better spent doing pretty much anything. I remember at one of the lowest points in my life, when I had done what the Christian folks in my circle did and still, nothing changed, that I got a glimpse of what life was without this burden (and yes, I believe it’s a burden) of figuring out God or Jesus’s take is on everything and how he would get me through it. Guess what? I had enough faith, I did everything right, and God has never saved me from anything or came through at the last minute, like all those stories we used to hear in Sunday School of the lady with no grocery money who got a fridge full of food on the last day of the month. No, when we had no food, we had to go dig out of dumpsters when I was little. Nobody saved us, and we didn’t expect anyone to.

Here’s another thing – God doesn’t impart peace, or comfort. This poor lady I’m referencing above would be better off using that wasted time on her knees praying to a uninterested celestial being to call a lawyer and get her proverbial shit together. The evangelical view of God is so, so off, people. It’s such a crock.

And God doesn’t necessarily protect you, either. Tell that to all the little kids who were molested by Uncle Jim Bob. Where was God then? He doesn’t HAVE to do anything, and these poor misguided souls who believe that they have some kind of cosmic right to security are in for a very eyeopening experience.

As far as “finding peace in His Word”, I’ve never found that to be true. Frankly, the Bible is freaking boring. There is very little in there that is applicable to real life, unless you’re a misogynistic middle-aged man. I tried for YEARS to study, read, memorize, etc. the Bible, and the more I read it (and I still read it) the more I realized that the popular Christian evangelical view of who and what God is is SOOOOO incredibly different that the God portrayed in the Bible. That’s why I could never quite get the hang of the whole God thing for the long haul, because the foundation of it is so screwy.

One last thing I have to point out in this post: the whole deceived by Satan thing. I’m sorry, but saying that someone is deceived by Satan is just an excuse for their bad behavior. Don’t blame a nonsensical entity for your screwups – and that goes for God too. You do have a brain, you were blessed with some common sense, have the decency to fess up to your mistakes and stop passing the buck. Oh, and as far as praying for your husband when he’s served you with divorce papers? I don’t think so.

This post is all over the place, and for that I apologize. All this decompressing is coming up after literally years and years of evangelical conditioning, and it’s going to take a while to process.

My goodness, it's snowing in April!

April 19, 2008

It is April 19.

And as I write this, IT IS SNOWING.

We went for a nice long walk this morning and of course Henry completely went nuts. We’re so used to his…..stuff…..that we don’t even give it a second thought, it’s normal for us. But I noticed other people looking. Oh, well.

Last night was a baseball scrimmage, and one of James’ teammates has an older brother who is mentally handicapped. It has been very, very interesting to me to watch this boy, see how other people react to him, how his peers interact with him, parents, etc. because it gives me a new perspective on how Henry is viewed. It’s been a very educational experience, in that I’ve been able to get a non-Mom (well, kind of) look at a child with special needs and how they interact with the community. If that makes any sense.

Anyway, it’s snowing!

My goodness, it’s snowing in April!

April 19, 2008

It is April 19.

And as I write this, IT IS SNOWING.

We went for a nice long walk this morning and of course Henry completely went nuts. We’re so used to his…..stuff…..that we don’t even give it a second thought, it’s normal for us. But I noticed other people looking. Oh, well.

Last night was a baseball scrimmage, and one of James’ teammates has an older brother who is mentally handicapped. It has been very, very interesting to me to watch this boy, see how other people react to him, how his peers interact with him, parents, etc. because it gives me a new perspective on how Henry is viewed. It’s been a very educational experience, in that I’ve been able to get a non-Mom (well, kind of) look at a child with special needs and how they interact with the community. If that makes any sense.

Anyway, it’s snowing!

The taxman cometh

April 16, 2008

This has been a really interesting day. This morning I got my hair done, part of the new thing I’m trying to do where I do things for ME and ME only, like hairdos, nails, new clothes, etc. I’ve gone through most of my adult life not doing these things so it’s always a treat.

Then I had to go pick up my taxes and I found out I owe like a bajillion dollars. Bite me, IRS! What if I don’t pay? Huh? Whatcha gonna do? Send me to prison?…..oh.

Thennnn, I took Henry the Hacker to a doctor’s appt. because he’s been coughing for 2 weeks straight, and thankfully he does not have pneumonia, but we did find out the extent of his vascular ring, and it’s 50%. This is a lot worse than I had previously thought. Oh, and then? Kaiser canceled our health insurance because of a payment mixup. I also got $250 in overdraft fees because of SOMEBODY using PayPal way too much and not telling me (that SOMEBODY most likely will be getting some Ben-Gay in his underpants tonight).

So yeah. Oh, and the kicker? Aunt Flo is in town and I’m cramping like nobody’s business. My cat puked all over the rug, the bathroom is dirty, and I think I’m getting a cold sore. Meh.

And yet, I’m not curled up in a ball sucking my thumb (well, yet, anyway). Things could, and have been, a lot worse. In the words of Scarlett, tomorrow is another day! AND IT BETTER NOT SUCK AS MUCH AS THIS ONE, OR SO HELP ME.

It's 4 AM.

April 14, 2008

And I’m up, because I can’t stop coughing. It’s one of those weird coughs that doesn’t have any “oomph” behind it – just itchy throat. So I’m drinking tea, listening to the house sleep, and I’m not really that tired. It’s nice. Why doesn’t everyone wake up at 4 AM every day? :>)

It’s 4 AM.

April 14, 2008

And I’m up, because I can’t stop coughing. It’s one of those weird coughs that doesn’t have any “oomph” behind it – just itchy throat. So I’m drinking tea, listening to the house sleep, and I’m not really that tired. It’s nice. Why doesn’t everyone wake up at 4 AM every day? :>)

Sunshine!

April 12, 2008

Today in the Northwest, a large orange ball was sighted in the sky. Since it gave off heat, many NW citizens were seen outside doing various outdoorsy things, such as:

Building a rock wall.

Going to a baseball game.

Typing on their laptop, which unfortunately is freaking impossible to see in the sunlight.

Also, there was much basking, a little bit of sunning, and a good dollop of your basic lazing about. Unfortunately, our Mr. Henry is still feverish with cough so he was not able to enjoy it as much as he could’ve, but STILL. Any day with sunshine is a good day.

Random thoughts

April 10, 2008

– Boys with horrible hacky coughs and fever STILL can play five hours straight of Paper Mario.
– My yard is currently being destroyed by husband and two friends. It will look very nice when it’s all done, but now, it’s a giant dirt pile with my poor uprooted plants all toes up. I can almost hear them screaming. Well, not really, that would be creepy.
– I can’t wait to get another mani/pedi, and in fact, I’m kind of chipping my nails ON PURPOSE to speed up this event.
– I’m concerned about some of my work projects.
– My house is messy.
– So is my car.
– My car is being blocked by aforementioned two friends’ big honkin’ white truck.
– I need my car to go pick up kids at school.
– I probably should brush my teeth before I do this.
– Would gum be okay as a substitute?

Guess what happens when you say "I haven't gotten sick yet this year!"

April 10, 2008

That’s right! YOU GET SICK.

Although I haven’t gotten it as bad as Henry, who after a full week of coughing up a lung is STILL sounding like a 3 pack a day smoker, and is probably going to have to visit the doctor, who will tell me that it’s a virus and he can’t have anything, so I will continue to dose him up with children’s Robitussin, which doesn’t work, except to make him drowsy. And at this point, I’ll take drowsy.

One thing though, that I’m wrestling with, and I’m sure you moms can help me out with this. If your kid is hacking up some serious lung butter, but doesn’t have any other symptoms (other than a stuffy nose), do you send him or her to school? He’s fine except he coughs CONSTANTLY. I would personally be ticked if a parent sent their kid to school sounding like this, but it’s a fine line. What do you think?